How to: Start your new year right
2022 is just around the corner. So, just like the years before, most of us would set a few new year resolutions for the new year. Be it for our personal growth or someone else's, our resolutions should be the upgraded version compared to the previous year. The main reason on why we need to set up some goals for the new year is to ensure that the year ahead of us would turn out the way we wanted, and never the opposite.
Here, I would like to share some tips on how to start off your new year right.
Reflect on your past year's resolutions & make adjustments, if necessary.
2021 might be too harsh on you. You might planned on something big, but failed to execute your plans due to some circumstances that were not under your control. Or maybe you managed to do everything that you planned on doing, despite the fact that most of us had these movement restrictions for some months. No matter what kind of outcome you're having, try to look back at what you've managed to achieve during 2021. Does it satisfy you and your goals? Do you think that you could've done better? Assess your own achievement throughout the year & pinpoint some of the criteria that need more attention for the upcoming year. Relevance, execution plan & time-bound are some of the criteria that needs your attention. If necessary, adjust your current goals into something more realistic that suits your current situation & condition.
Self love, self love & self love.
Whenever I'm thinking about self love, the song Scars to Your Beautiful by Alessia Cara keeps popping up in my mind. It always reminds me of how each and everyone of us is beautiful in our own unique way. Self love is something that looks easy to obtain, but in reality, it is actually complicated. Now, the reason why I said that it is complicated is because we always neglect self love due to insecurities & the fear of not being good enough. We tend to doubt our own potential and beauty that are always there, inside of us all along. Insecurities exist because we always try to pursue for perfection in anything that we do. We always wanted the best for us & our loved ones, but applying immense amount of pressure on yourself to achieve that standard sometimes would do more harm than good. No, I'm not trying to convince you to stop being a perfectionist, as that's just who you are & how you perceived the world around you. But, what I'm trying to advice you is to take breaks in between your efforts on chasing your dreams or goals. Trying to improve everything and reduce the amount of flaws would consume a lot of your energy, physically & emotionally. Therefore, always remind yourself to gather yourself up at times and rest a bit. Perhaps your mind would always tell you to do otherwise, so try to distract yourself by doing something that you would enjoy & would benefit you in a long run. Reading books, learning new language & painting would be some of the activities that would benefit you and giving you temporary satisfaction at the same time. But most importantly, no matter who you are, or what position are you in right now, give yourself the love that you deserves.
Make new friends from different places
It's never a bad thing to add up a few more lines into your friend list. Having friends or someone you're comfortable being around with is something valuable that would never be tradable with money. Aside from them could giving you a helping hand whenever you hit the rock bottom, friends could also improve yourself as a human being. For example, you could sharpen your empathy skills by listening and responding towards your friends' problems. It is not a useless skill to have in your arsenal, as it would benefit you during your time at the workplace with your colleagues. There are a few platforms that you could try using to make new friends. One platform that I would highly recommend is Discord. Discord is a platform where you could join various kinds of servers from all across the world. You could make some new friends from other parts of the world as well! I've been using Discord to make new friends for almost a year now, and I've made a lot of new friends. They are really dependable & we even had some moments together in person! So, if you're looking for some new friends, or maybe trying to find someone to talk to, I would recommend you to use Discord.
Goodbye, toxic.
According to the dictionary, toxic could be defined as very harmful or unpleasant in a pervasive or insidious way. From the life perspective, toxic could be coming in a lot of forms. For example, toxic relationship, toxic traits & toxic behavior. Toxic is something that we would not want to touch, let alone having it ruining our personal life, as well as our relationship with others. We might still get stuck with these kinds of toxic right now, and guess what, it is time for us to get rid of it. Yep, throw these toxic things far away from you and never reach out for it again. Be it in forms of relationship or traits, you would feel much better right after when you decided to get rid of the toxicity from your life. Throughout the year 2021, I've been trying my hardest to get rid of toxicity from my life, especially in terms of my relationship, and it turned out way better than what I expected. I feel calm and happier than before. In fact, I feel like I found old, true self again, and never the one who I always pretended to be. Sure, it might be tough at first, but with resilience, determination & patience, you could get rid of any toxic stuff from your life in no time. Also, in order to make turn this process into a success, do not put yourself under pressure to rush the process. Take the time and space that you need. It is never a bad thing to take baby steps for this process. You would be having a tough time doing this because you are attached to the toxicity for some time, which leads to you feeling awkward whenever you're trying to break out from the dark side of your life. Again, give yourself the time & space for you to get rid of the toxicity. Trust me, it'll be worth it in the end. You deserve better & never ever settle for less <3
Learn new skills
Just like playing games, where you could level up your character and learn new skills in order to progress through the game, life can be perceived similar to that concept as well. We need some new skills in order to tackle the challenges ahead of us in the future. Different phases of life requires different kinds of skills that one need to master in order to live a good life. For example, during the transition from teenager years into adulthood, we need to master the communication skills, so that we could interact with people around us better, be it at our workplace or even when we are trying to create our own family. Aside from the common skills that we always work on, creative skills like music, arts and crafts are some skills that we could learn to improve our thinking skills. These creative activities that requires our brain to think different than how we use to think would definitely help us in the future, especially during some life crisis that requires decision making and critical thinking. Besides, getting tools for these activities are not hard at all. You could buy them online at some decent price & learn to master it online through videos. As for me, in 2021, I learned how to create my own music and podcast using online system. It is fun & I could share my artwork with others, with hope that they would be inspired to try some new stuff like that. So, what are you waiting for? Survey some interesting activities or skills to master and start working on it. I promise you, it'll be fun :)
I guess that's all from me. If you reached till the end of this sharing, I wish you a happy new year & hopefully you will get whatever that you wished for. 2022 holds a lot of new challenges for you, but I believe that you could make it through it all. Have faith in yourself, just like how I have faith in you :) Take care of your health & please stay safe <3
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